Updated: May 7, 2022
Don't complain about what you allow.
That one is always hard to hear.
Because it cuts through the shit and gets to reality. . . Most of the stuff we complain about is stuff we allow. Whenever I find myself complaining about my struggles with parenting (which is more often than I'd like to admit) . . . I usually come to the realization (after cutting the shit and getting really honest with myself) That what is happening is something I've participated in creating. . . A pattern that I have contributed to over and over. Ouch. My false self doesn't like interacting with reality. It loves the victim role of powerlessness. My real self knows the truth and loves taking responsibility. My real self knows that I'm powerful. The truth says. . . If I'm powerful enough to have created this shitty situation, then I'm also powerful enough to change it around. But only when I have the courage to take full responsibility for my results in life. When I take responsibility, I am free; free to fix it.
This is when the complaining stops and the action starts. This is where I go back to my parenting coach's material and remind myself of the tools that work so I can replace the tools that aren't working. If something in your life isn't working for you, I can show you exactly why it isn't working, and exactly how you can fix it . . . all without giving advice or telling you what to do... I show you by making it safe for you to see what you aren't looking at and showing you the right way to figure out how to create the results you want. I'm now accepting consults for my 1-on-1 coaching program. Take action and book a free virtual consult with me.